Be Your Brothers Keeper, not a keeper from your Brothers Destiny

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Love thy brother don’t lay with him. Leave that to the destiny God has laid out for him

What does that mean?

In the world I was bought up in many of us didn’t have father figures, there was rarely any in these spaces so we had to look after each other. We grew up on movies and shows like; Remember the Titans, 5brothers, Scarface, Godfather, The Sopranos, Naruto, One Piece, Prison Break. Shows of that ilk that displayed to you what a brother was supposed to be and how you should be. There were also messages in Gangs, Football and all team sports-related shows that men work better as a family and a unit treats each other with respect and covers him. Be your brother’s keeper, have my back I have your, lean on me. Messages of support and oneness bonds that can be.

(This is directed towards men because I am one but I’m sure it happens in all types of relationships)

These messages get skewed in hard times and when the relationship isn’t as strong as it once was. People will change and grow, the men that became your brothers start getting fear of loss and may start pulling you down out of a jaded sense of love because of how scary change is. Many men come from a really good place the crabs in the bucket mentality may develop and schemes may arise to hold each other back and down.

The point isn’t to destroy a great relationship but to build an adult relationship built on change and growth, the biggest deal right now is that when a relationship is built on youth and childish actions like clubbing, drinking, smoking keeping score and chasing skirt, it leaves out room to not grow that ground is marshland, yes you can build up one story maybe two or three, but when the idea is to grow exponentially it is not solid enough to reach any heights higher than humanly possible. In fact, it will only be torn down by acts of nature. The money is missing, love gets involved, someone gets to their life goals quicker it will be hard for anyone to handle that.

The relationship has to be built on the greatest ground possible, you can start on the marsh, meet each other there, learn you’re equals then move from that land to a more solid fertile land built to last. Then you must engineer ideals both of you can rely on in all situations, if not there’s chances of failure. What does this look like:

  • understanding each other honestly
  • Create philosophies you can agree on
  • Know how you can treat women
  • What is money to the both of you

There are simple idealistic thugs that are so pertinent to building an honest personal relationship because in reality, more times a man sees you with a girl and sees you drifting. Instead of thinking that room should be filled by his own Mrs he’s thinking that void can only be filled by you and now he becomes a source of toxicity to your relationship causing you to cheat or even making it seem okay to when your true happiness is being with your Mrs. There’s certain man that see you doing well creating equity in your business, or even you want to start a business and he wants to say you sure, you tell him you’ve been on it for years and you’re ready to bite the bullet now he becomes a source of doubt to your success, even you hit the belly on one of your clients then he’s looking at your businesses money as yours and his money and now you kill your business by spending your hard earned cash on nights out.

If you’re this type of friend stop. I’m speaking directly to the people that feel bad wen their friend is doing good without them. On the business front it’s hard to even structure your finances and other things but on a pure relationship basis if you feel your friend drifting and it’s not a terrible thing and he seems happier then it’s your job to be oxygen to that happiness because that drift can steer you to becoming a better person and direct you to your destiny because what is the point of you being cheeky to your friends business or girl when he’s never wanted that for you. You have to know yourself, there’s no need to read any books to know this but you know the emotion of when you feel down about others feeling good without you and it’s your job to snuff that out.

Everybody has their own time and yours will come the spotlight will be on you and in your time you will be the cause for celebration. So when it’s your friends turn you celebrate because you know yours will come and there is no time to be hating.

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Your friend would do terrible without his success and if your relationship isn’t built on true emotion (then what’s the point) you may not know how hard and fragile he’s feeling on the inside and the type of light this woman or business brings him.

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Fan that flame if your friend is trying to feel better about themselves and become a greater person let that beacon shine.

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That sparing wind you feel between you two find something to hold you down use that extra time to explore your wants and needs and what will be your life’s purpose because lord knows you may also need one.

It’s important that you know your place and role in this world brotherhood is so important and if you know yourself it’s even more important to know when you’re being toxic and when you’re not. If your friend really loves this person or this work has a fiesta for him because when you’re up you’re also going to want and need it.

There are enough people running against you and your clique and there can’t be infighting between brothers because of a disagreement or someone feels like their being outshined. Treat that shine as a lighthouse in a storm to wake you up to the fact of life, you have to grow change and evolve because whether you realise it or not, you want to be better and different and new elements of life & change does that to men.

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LOUIS VUITTON A/W 2020 Review — Virgil Ablohs New Formal Millennial – A Luxury Art Sentiment

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After reviewing Virgil’s most recent effort with Vuitton on my Youtube I thought I would writ an article about the growth and creativity displayed. Same thing with Samuel Ross I expect these men were angry with everything that was going on and felt pigeon holed into streetwear so decided to divert.

Personally Streetwear is menswear just as tech wear is and all other styles, It is really down to the artists influences. More of that on Current State of Menswear. Virgil seems to take influence from the many years living in America and being shown what a man is on TV and the dominant white culture over there.

What Virgil did was become a renegade of the ideas of old and chopped and screwed them as  Black Culture does in the creative and to make them palatable for men today. What does a current 30 year old suit looks like “same as 100 years ago”… Not anymore What Virgil has done is give power and presence to a new man that is speaking today. As menswear gets bigger it is now time to influence all the faces that have no preconceived notions of what being a Man is.

That level of difference Virgil has in this show is given to us by the many different colour choices in duffle bag or hand pouch or fur hat and coat or very literally a chopped up suit.

Just as Kiko is doing we are getting new shapes and different patterns on display for how we perceive menswear. As I go on about the menswear revolution Everything I think is becoming more to light as they are displayed on the runway Display in texture/ colour/ patterns/ referencing/ layers.

The Suit is the ultimate form of layering from undershirt to shirt to tie, then waistcoat and blazer you may look at it as old hat but that is the very platform that menswear was founded upon and if you take those principles and stretch them over menswear essentials as Virgil did you get a really creative collection and we are going to see more like this where the runway is bound to dictate how men dress in the street much like Womens fashion for the past hundred years.

When I say Menswear revolution this is what I’m talking about never in the life of people who grew up outside the high society in Britain has there been this amount of men understanding quality clothing outside the luxury names and High fashion zeitgeist. Meaning Sam Has the opportunity to be the guy to walk all men down the aisle and be a fixed position in mens outside the view of people without station but work in stations. This is a British man from ends speaking to tandem and it can work which is what I mean by not playing the Prada (High society) game and play the game we know.

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Masculine Revolution — Discussion on the Menswear Renaissance

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I started this discussion years ago with anyone who would listen and as a young artist without resources I did all I could to share it, is the inception of the blog. My guiding Principles and Philosophies dictate every fashion article Write from the beginning. There’s not one article on this website that doesn’t have a distinction among my forecast.

I grew to enjoy writing as a hobby and ended up writing over 100 articles in 2019. Here in 2020 as we approach 2022 where the start of the Renaissance will be as clear as day I wanted to document all things that have been happening. from the art Industry of which I love with every fibre of my being,, the men who speak to men and I understand as propagators of the ethos of what masculinity is and represent it well we all have the same mind and way of understanding.

I decided to make a video on the Ethos and will soon make a video of artists representing Masculinity as they see fit in fashion particularly as it becomes the vehicle of what we see as the conversation maker. Each menswear designer is creating something for not the smallest substrata but the wider demographic.

As much I love avant-garde and andro fashion that is part of a substrate and cross-dressing as well as wearing womenswear is part of an even smaller respectable substrate that needs representation equally. Right beside the designers that are speaking to masculinity as it is and grow with it.

What we are seeing in the fashion industry is a Menswear revolution where we are able to represent masculinity in art in ways it wasn’t able before. the foundations being a working man, streetwear, industrial tech wear, and other things laying the first firmament the foundation of masculinity being the principles of utility and simplicity of use, evolving the conversation and design language.

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Referenced Articles

State of Menswear https://nytypical.net/2019/12/18/the-state-of-menswear-change-of-the-avante-gardeno-such-thing-as-streetwear/
Virgil 2054 collectionhttps://nytypical.net/2019/12/10/arah-on-youtube-dior-stussy-fall-2020-runway-show-reaction-review-surfer-type-beat/
2 Design Trendshttps://nytypical.net/2019/02/05/2-design-trends-that-you-need-to-understand-in-2019-that-will-sweep-the-highstreet/
Dior Technology Flow by Kim Jones ft. Alyx and Ambush – https://nytypical.net/2018/12/05/dior-pre-fall-review/
Industrial Sneaker Revolutionhttps://nytypical.net/2019/02/12/industrial-sneaker-revolution/
Techwear insiderhttps://nytypical.net/2019/03/12/techwear-insider-what-is-techwear/
Black Renaissance: Statement of Fashionhttps://nytypical.net/2019/10/24/black-renaissance-future-history-statement-of-fashion/
Comfort is my new luxuryhttps://nytypical.net/2019/01/10/comfort-is-the-new-luxury/
How the Hoodie Became a Highly coveted itemhttps://nytypical.net/2018/12/20/haute-hoodie/
A look at the new design languagehttps://nytypical.net/2018/11/22/dialogue-on-design/

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