A Note On – My Journey to an Anti Erasure World

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We go again,

I have been working tirelessly to establish a great reading list and recommendations for all the people I’m around who want to learn and are willing to learn.

With help from Ayo Ojo @theldnhauttie Iolo Edwards karen hunter Greg Carr I have established a reading list well enough for the people who have the will the want and the enthusiasm to learn about history without erasure.


For me it all started with buying history and archive books/lectures thinking I would learn good history by well meaning people.
Long story short the event that happened was history would erase the blackness within it. This sent me on a pursuit to learn more and put that in my work leading me to believe I was the first of many, well was I wrong.

Erasure has been a long standing tradition in the west, Ayo and I Discovered that there are many books and lectures out there by writers with more years and experience than us.

Phenomenally written in a language made for us to understand. Putting Karen and Greg in my crosshairs, these professors have an amazing show on YouTube made to fill the soul and educate the minds of us all and I dedicate time to reading them.

A mind that is out to learn what they can about fashion and history Ally we exchanged reading list of books to read so I could find better fulfilling my purpose within the fashion sphere. A strong ally in Iolo made for me to gain a photographically perspective of history.

In that comes this reading list. Specially built to be read by anyone, quite literally they all are in a language made to read regardless of level and full of information that can help anyone build the visual historical and contextual timeline of black influence in fashion.

There are many more books but these are the ones I offer to you all as a starting point on your journey as they were for me.

P.S. Anti Erasure is not a singular journey, many people out there are doing the work, seek them out; learn from them; grow with them; better the world

Whatever Moves Your Dial

Damilare. Not Your Typical

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A Diary of Silver linings: why I’m a creator you follow

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Last year I wrote a book, not many people know I have a book, but I told myself henceforth I will share it so whoever needs it can see it. I have a growing voice in fashion and much of my writing is not fashion related, obscure to me but that’s the world I live in and how my life is.

Melancholy Maelstrom, Available on All platforms

Here’s my first book, I want to say, this book is unlike any of my other works, born of pain an anguish of a failed system I hope to change. Nothing to do with fashion and more to do with real life. I wrote this book before all of the troubles of last year and how there’s a silver lining to everything. Once you see it, seize it capture it and Burst it Open so the light it brings shines on everyone in your space. That’s what this book is about

Last year my people were dying on the streets, there were so many points where I saw the pain and suffering reflected in the people in the work I produced. I decided not to share my work because my words in the moment meant more than the words I had written, even though it was months apart.

There were times when I was asked in the moment to make fashion videos, I had created a show that was unlike any before it and meant so much to the community who were exposed to it. My spirit really said I should not do no productions because people in the streets, me being in the streets was more important than fashion.

I am not for your consumption

Janelle Monet, via Taurus

There were moments that were necessary for others to escape that I could provide but it wasn’t in me to help people escape, I needed to live in the moment as a human just like everyone else and that needed to be respected because there were voices that I needed to listen to and I needed others to hear.

In America from Kobe and Pop Smoke, to Ahmaud Arbery, to the Lekki tollgate massacre 2020 did not let up I made the decision to live in it. Covid made sure we stewed in it, how could a man like me, raised by the people create an escape. I didn’t see it, if it was my job to do that I’m sorry.

My business took a hit because of and now I’m here again asking for peace, patience and guidance to work up again in the eyes of the people from this site and those that follow me.

My existence is not for your consumption, my work is. We are tied, but I was tired. I’m due to show up and show everyone again, why I am a creator you follow

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Damilare. Not Your Typical

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Spring Of The Rookie

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Be Your Brothers Keeper, not a keeper from your Brothers Destiny

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we go again

Love thy brother don’t lay with him. Leave that to the destiny God has laid out for him

What does that mean?

In the world I was bought up in many of us didn’t have father figures, there was rarely any in these spaces so we had to look after each other. We grew up on movies and shows like; Remember the Titans, 5brothers, Scarface, Godfather, The Sopranos, Naruto, One Piece, Prison Break. Shows of that ilk that displayed to you what a brother was supposed to be and how you should be. There were also messages in Gangs, Football and all team sports-related shows that men work better as a family and a unit treats each other with respect and covers him. Be your brother’s keeper, have my back I have your, lean on me. Messages of support and oneness bonds that can be.

(This is directed towards men because I am one but I’m sure it happens in all types of relationships)

These messages get skewed in hard times and when the relationship isn’t as strong as it once was. People will change and grow, the men that became your brothers start getting fear of loss and may start pulling you down out of a jaded sense of love because of how scary change is. Many men come from a really good place the crabs in the bucket mentality may develop and schemes may arise to hold each other back and down.

The point isn’t to destroy a great relationship but to build an adult relationship built on change and growth, the biggest deal right now is that when a relationship is built on youth and childish actions like clubbing, drinking, smoking keeping score and chasing skirt, it leaves out room to not grow that ground is marshland, yes you can build up one story maybe two or three, but when the idea is to grow exponentially it is not solid enough to reach any heights higher than humanly possible. In fact, it will only be torn down by acts of nature. The money is missing, love gets involved, someone gets to their life goals quicker it will be hard for anyone to handle that.

The relationship has to be built on the greatest ground possible, you can start on the marsh, meet each other there, learn you’re equals then move from that land to a more solid fertile land built to last. Then you must engineer ideals both of you can rely on in all situations, if not there’s chances of failure. What does this look like:

  • understanding each other honestly
  • Create philosophies you can agree on
  • Know how you can treat women
  • What is money to the both of you

There are simple idealistic thugs that are so pertinent to building an honest personal relationship because in reality, more times a man sees you with a girl and sees you drifting. Instead of thinking that room should be filled by his own Mrs he’s thinking that void can only be filled by you and now he becomes a source of toxicity to your relationship causing you to cheat or even making it seem okay to when your true happiness is being with your Mrs. There’s certain man that see you doing well creating equity in your business, or even you want to start a business and he wants to say you sure, you tell him you’ve been on it for years and you’re ready to bite the bullet now he becomes a source of doubt to your success, even you hit the belly on one of your clients then he’s looking at your businesses money as yours and his money and now you kill your business by spending your hard earned cash on nights out.

If you’re this type of friend stop. I’m speaking directly to the people that feel bad wen their friend is doing good without them. On the business front it’s hard to even structure your finances and other things but on a pure relationship basis if you feel your friend drifting and it’s not a terrible thing and he seems happier then it’s your job to be oxygen to that happiness because that drift can steer you to becoming a better person and direct you to your destiny because what is the point of you being cheeky to your friends business or girl when he’s never wanted that for you. You have to know yourself, there’s no need to read any books to know this but you know the emotion of when you feel down about others feeling good without you and it’s your job to snuff that out.

Everybody has their own time and yours will come the spotlight will be on you and in your time you will be the cause for celebration. So when it’s your friends turn you celebrate because you know yours will come and there is no time to be hating.

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Your friend would do terrible without his success and if your relationship isn’t built on true emotion (then what’s the point) you may not know how hard and fragile he’s feeling on the inside and the type of light this woman or business brings him.

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Fan that flame if your friend is trying to feel better about themselves and become a greater person let that beacon shine.

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That sparing wind you feel between you two find something to hold you down use that extra time to explore your wants and needs and what will be your life’s purpose because lord knows you may also need one.

It’s important that you know your place and role in this world brotherhood is so important and if you know yourself it’s even more important to know when you’re being toxic and when you’re not. If your friend really loves this person or this work has a fiesta for him because when you’re up you’re also going to want and need it.

There are enough people running against you and your clique and there can’t be infighting between brothers because of a disagreement or someone feels like their being outshined. Treat that shine as a lighthouse in a storm to wake you up to the fact of life, you have to grow change and evolve because whether you realise it or not, you want to be better and different and new elements of life & change does that to men.

Whatever Moves Your Dial

Damilare. Not Your Typical

Follow my socials Instagram: @nytypical Twitter: @nytypical

To learn more about Owning Your Own Ship – OYOS  

Please check out Some of my Thoughts On:

For some longer form write ups Read some of My Dialogues

Click here for my Essays 

 On My series work

Spring Of The Rookie

Sickle Cell Companion

Owning Your Own Ship