Be Your Brothers Keeper, not a keeper from your Brothers Destiny

Love thy brother don’t lay with him. Leave that to the destiny God has laid out for him

What does that mean?

In the world I was bought up in many of us didn’t have father figures, there was rarely any in these spaces so we had to look after each other. We grew up on movies and shows like; Remember the Titans, 5brothers, Scarface, Godfather, The Sopranos, Naruto, One Piece, Prison Break. Shows of that ilk that displayed to you what a brother was supposed to be and how you should be. There were also messages in Gangs, Football and all team sports related shows that men work better as a family and a unit treat each other with respect and cover him. Be your brothers keeper, have my back I have your, lean on me. Messages of support and oneness bonds that can be.

(This is directed towards men because I am one but I’m sure it happens in all types of relationships)

These messages get skewed in hard times and when the relationship isn’t as strong as it once was. People will change and grow, the men that became your brothers start getting fear of loss and may start pulling you down out of a jaded sense of love because of how scary change is. Many men come from a really good place the crabs in the bucket mentality may develop and schemes may arise to hold each other back and down.

The point isn’t to destroy a great relationship but to build an adult relationship built on change and growth, the biggest deal right now is that when a relationship is built on youth and childish actions like clubbing, drinking, smoking keeping score and chasing skirt, it leaves out room to not grow that ground is marshland, yes you can build up one story maybe two or three, but when the idea is to grow exponentially it is not solid enough to reach any heights higher than humanly possible. In fact it will only be torn down by acts of nature. The money is missing, love gets involved, someone gets to their life goals quicker it will be hard for anyone to handle that.

The relationship has to be built on the greatest ground possible, you can start on the marsh, meet each other there, learn you’re equals then move from that land to a more solid fertile land built to last. Then you must engineer ideals both of you can rely on in all situations, if not there’s chances of failure. What does this look like:

  • understanding each other honestly
  • Create philosophies you can agree on
  • Know how you can treat women
  • What is money to the both of you

There are simple idealistic thugs that are so pertinent to building an honest personal relationship because in reality, more times a man sees you with a girl and sees you drifting. Instead of thinking that room should be filled by his own Mrs he’s thinking that void can only be filled by you and now he becomes a source of toxicity to your relationship causing you to cheat or even making it seem okay to when your true happiness is being with your Mrs. There’s certain man that see you doing well creating equity in your business, or even you want to start a business and he wants to say you sure, you tell him you’ve been on it for years and you’re ready to bite the bullet now he becomes a source of doubt to your success, even you hit the belly on one of your clients then he’s looking at your businesses money as yours and his money and now you kill your business by spending your hard earned cash on nights out.

If you’re this type of friend stop. I’m speaking directly to the people that feel bad wen their friend is doing good without them. On the business front it’s hard to even structure your finances and other things but on a pure relationship basis if you feel your friend drifting and it’s not a terrible thing and he seems happier then it’s your job to be oxygen to that happiness because that drift can steer you to becoming a better person and direct you to your destiny because what is the point of you being cheeky to your friends business or girl when he’s never wanted that for you. You have to know yourself, there’s no need to read any books to know this but you know the emotion of when you feel down about others feeling good without you and it’s your job to snuff that out.

Everybody has their own time and yours will come the spotlight will be on you and in your time you will be the cause for celebration. So when it’s your friends turn you celebrate because you know yours will come and there is no time to be hating.

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Your friend would do terrible without his success and if your relationship isn’t built on true emotion (then what’s the point) you may not know how hard and fragile he’s feeling on the inside and the type of light this woman or business brings him.

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Fan that flame if your friend is trying to feel better about themselves and become a greater person let that beacon shine.

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That sparing wind you feel between you two find something to hold you down use that extra time to explore your wants and needs and what will be your life’s purpose because lord knows you may also need one.

It’s important that you know your place and role in this world brotherhood is so important and if you know yourself it’s even more important to know when you’re being toxic and when you’re not. If your friend really loves this person or this work have a fiesta for him because when you’re up you’re also going to want and need it.

There’s enough people running against you and your clique and there can’t be infighting between brothers because of a disagreement or someone feels like their being outshined. Treat that shine as a light house in a storm to wake you up to the fact of life, you have to grow change and evolve because whether you realise it or not, you want to be better and different and new elements of life & change does that to men.

OYOS: Repertoire of Excellence

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We Go Again,

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Since I’ve been around for a year or so now I have been thinking intently about all the years that has led up to this level that I’m on now. How much I’ve given other people and what I give to myself.

For years up until I started my website I dedicated myself to helping other people walk into their greatness. Is and always will be my calling, I have never really cared about me the type of money I make and the sacrifices I’ve made for others so long as they gave of them everything towards their greatness.

I never blamed any of them for their failure, they just wasn’t ready for the intensity it takes, with that though I noticed all the pitfalls in having to create the right measured for your success. I spoke about this in Talent, Execution and Elite Mentality, University of Self and Being an Elite Level Producer, these are all seeds to my understanding of what it takes.

What I learned from producing other people is no one is willing to make the sacrifices I’m willing to make for our mutual benefit. For years I toiled learned and failed, not in big ways but to the degree that people were too okay with ordinary successes and were not ready for the extraordinary success I would want to provide.

That was fine though. Massive success isn’t for everyone so I move on and leave people to their own devices. Then it dawned on me that no one I know really had a local example of massive success. People are drawn to it but don’t know what it looks like day to day and because of “instant success” people think it’s supposed to happen to them right away when in reality it’s a daily thing that you deliver on weekly monthly quarterly and so forth.

This example of excellence is very foreign and day to day the stacking effect isn’t exposed. For me right now this effect is on full display there’s so much that goes into every blog, article, essay, post that there happens to be no accidents. I’m not necessarily talking about the average everyday zeitgeist topics that are referenced day to day, but this is part of a mission now to expose what grand planning looks like day to day. It starts with OYOS and lives by it.

Everyday a new seed is planted more wood for the ship is cured and the foundation of excellence being built in front of their very eyes in hopes to inspire and expose what it takes. Not just in quality but in speed. In this day and age you need speed and quality but that only comes with high vision and high concept production and execution of proof of concept.

I will break these down further I just want to start with the laying of the field. Planting these understandings for the people that want and need them. It’s important for me to have them out there.

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Something really near and dear to my heart, when it comes to business, pure business. I think of two things; finance and tech. Being able to make investment based on future projections and being able to create new platforms and systems based on what people need. It’s all a matter of platforming the right ideas and advancing the human race so the remedial things don’t need to be thought about as much and the tasking things can be simpler & automated.

The point of human advancement is technology, smarts, cerebral thoughts and making them things. How can we preserve food smoke and salt all the way to now where food is sourced and farmed within hours.

These things are Uber important and there are certain people who have thrown their hat in the ring to say that now is the time & I’m going to be the example for people to follow. I’ve picked a couple of people with an array of skills and specialities. These are a couple who I think have potential to be around for quite sometime and a couple principles that I hold near and dear.

Jaden Smith

I have been tracking this mans movements since he was 14 or so, I regard him as one of the free black men we have. Being born as a household name this young man has carved his own lane, separate but part of his family dynasty and although we were born apart he is the link between a freedom we should all have.

A young Jaden done 2 things that caught my eye, created a water company and created an album named SYRE,

The water company (Just Water) creates fully recyclable water bottles a simple and effective idea from the early days of the go green initiative. He saw a problem from early and he filled the need, something I saw in myself. When I was just a boy I saw how easy it was to recycle so I started to do so and have been doin so since. Now this man as a teen created a company with the desire to remove plastic from the pipeline of single use items.

His Album (SYRE) was a paramount album that showed me where his head was at by the subject matter he chose, he showed he was clued in and detailed his understanding. He made a quartet called BLUE which was such an intro to have in an album and showed his seriousness to music which I appreciated. It made us know he wasn’t just a rich kid making music but he had something to speak on, he has a message and spoke to the unspoken

Those foundation this man has tells me he will be part of the establishment and seen as a statesman in the coming times

Harlem Capital

The company born out of necessity, some of us in the house know there’s not many of us out there (in terms of black folk) therefore for the most part we lack the access necessary to create a significant change. This company is starting to become a sort of bridge between the those that need and those that don’t know.

The young men in Harlem Capital are among themselves known and branding themselves well within reason to show to the qualified companies they are there if needs be. Tech is a big deal to HC having a stake in Blavity and all but it’s Business, they invest in businesses that need that bump extra cashflow liquidity or their experienced minds to see things they haven’t seen.

The young men John Henry, Henri P. Jacques, Jarrid Tingle & Brandon Bryant come from different backgrounds of different experience types and levels and together create a hive mind called Harlem Capital where their understanding of different sectors have made a good number of their investments worthwhile and have awarded them a spot on the coveted Forbes 30under30 list.

Their New Money has got them notoriety and it’s not everyday an investment company WANTS attention but it’s necessary to lift their light for them to be a beacon in the community, their visibility let’s,

  • people know they’re real
  • People know their success is achievable
  • A company of their kind can work
  • There are people willing to serve the underserved
  • Let people who want to do what their doing have an example good or bad

With those points Harlem Capitals frontmen John and Brandon continue to Brand their company effectively, getting them attention and their effectiveness has attracted old money to their company in the form of TPG Global, a company invisible to me till recent but their portfolio speaks for itself. I can’t get my head round the aristocracy of it all, I really want to see where this partnership ends up in 20 years but for now, as we approach the Twenties Harlem Capital are aiming high.

Iddris Sandu

This young man started early by happenstance and he had a great story to tell working for multiple Silicon Valley companies he created an expertise and initiative making him a high prize in the tech game. His story is still quite new and just like many of us still growing into the role of leadership but listening talking about his company co-sign after he got the Nipsey Hussle Co-Sign it will be good to see everything that he does with this attention.

Tristan Walker

Someone I’ve been following since the beginning of my 20’s dream, the awe I felt knowing someone like this exist and how he was really a beacon for innovation to all the people in attendance who aspired to be in tech. Combining a Co-Sign and investment from has and really intrenching themselves in the culture early and focussed on a singular customer building that base and expanding it is great to see that happen.

It is a real thing, my ‘lighthouse theory‘ being the guiding light to those out in the unknown and causing sparks to fly. He was what he was. He did sell part of his company to Proctor and Gamble the same company who own a stake in his supposed main rival Gillette who soon after came up with a razor with a similar message I would like to see where this all comes into full circle. I don’t see the idea of selling to your main rivals company but in the 20’s he will be someone to watch for better or worse.

Stay composed and keep your neck up

Whatever Moves Your Dial

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