OYOS – University of Self

We go again

I took a break from life I took a break from money I took a break from women the game and all of what makes society society.

I was a me that was okay but it wasn’t who I knew I could be, who I wanted to be, the type of man that makes me love myself and my actions.

The type of person that lives OYOS 24/7, that’s a hard draw because OYOS came in waves and forms of necessity not my natural state of creativity.

Being a person that lives by principle is hard it doesn’t make sense to everyone the process is taxing and people talk to you weird funny and try to drag you down when you do it.

It’s not for everyone and it’s not for just anyone to see you go through it I had the luxury of it only be family see me go through it. It took my everything to stay the course but I’m happy I did it.

I went to the university of self, where you learn Principles, Discipline, Action, Strategy, Specialised Knowledge, Money, Method & Character. Learning to be your true self takes time courage and a willingness to accept who you really are no exceptions.

Being who I am just today knowing I’m exactly where I should be and I have a real foundation underneath me feels good. I want to recommend everyone do it, I just know how life is and learning is moved by other things by the word but the physical manifestation of it and the texture of your physical space.

I wrote this as a note to myself writing aloud, maybe to that one or two that’s on the edge of performing the same thing. I just want to tell myself and everyone else it’s worth it. I hope I can become a worthy example to someone out there.

Whatever Moves Your Dial

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A Note on Sickle Cell: THE GLOBAL INVISIBLE DISEASE — 5 Things You Need to Know

 We Help Grow Understanding,

Some may or may not know about it, this is a terrible state of affairs, I wrote about how Sickle Cell Patients are mistreated under medical care, where people are supposed to feel safe and looked after in A Portion of Humanity that makes me wonder why? Why would people get treated this way, and what comes down to it is a lack of education.

The Scope of Who it Effects

When people think its just a black issue because of the disproportionate reports by black people it leads people to believe this is a purely black issue and whatever biases take over from there.  IMG_5017

Sickle Cell is a worldwide mutation its not something easily fought or shirked off. Deriving from areas that mosquito feed the mutation evolved to counteract malaria which mosquitos carry; the effects of these bought about some changes within the chemistry of those native to these areas.

Contrasting Views of How Similar illnesses are dealt with

As you can see this condition affects people in India and the Middle East as well as South America its not just a black problem but it is something we talk about enough that gives me the hope we can do something about it and add the different cultures into the mix. There are more people with Sickle Cell Trait than there are with Multiple Sclerosis & Cystic Fibrosis combined in the UK.

I do not see how this is not a bigger conversation and how I can find advanced campaigns  of how MS effects people in the winter and so forth but there can’t be one with Sickle Cell; what is especially great is the way they’re building awareness, there’s just a stark and obvious contrast in how they’re perceived globally even though one can effect more people than the other. It’s great what they’re doing with MS, we would really love the fight to be taken seriously with Sickle Cell too.

A Brief History of Western Understanding

Sickle Cell has thought to have been around for 5000 years yet it’s said to have been “discovered” in 1910 by a Dr. Herrick in the America’s; Sickle Cell trait “discovered” 1927 by pair Hahn and Gillespie — it wasn’t until around the 50’s where more significant progress was made Nobel Winner Dr. Pauling & Itano who broke down the understanding of what we know about “Molecular Disease” (diseases that have proteins with abnormal chemical structures); Sickle Cell being the first of thousands.

The 70’s bought about “genetic Counselling”, with a smidgen of eugenics where organised thought and teaching spread some propaganda in the African and Caribbean communities that have now become part of the cultural fabric… You don’t hear accounts of “Sickle Cell” before western medicine started talking about it, nothing black people done or may have done for it is not recognised in. the medical zeitgeist; along with the destroying of a long documented history there are many things we still don’t know about ourselves.

Cultural Measures Taken to “Avoid” Sickle Cell

What I’m talking about now is the cultural setting and how medical conditions are treated in the black community all around the World. We don’t take our medicine or intelligence seriously because its not accepted by the powers that be within the institutionalised imperial system that is the European Health Care system. That being said we still don’t know much about Sickle Cell, not much work is done for it and culturally it is preferred Sickle Cell is bred out than propagated.

Although it is a 5000 year mutation people believe it can now take a generation to get rid of it; colour me skeptical but that doesn’t sound very much of an effective way to handle it, I’m not trying to control what people do with their bodies but I don’t think Abortion of a child which you find out has Sickle Cell prenatally is a solid measure either. I feel there are better ways to Handle this 5000 year (at least) mutation.

Broadening the Conversation

I believe that although the history was ripped away burned destroyed and disrespected we can look forward to deeper understand what Sickle Cell is. Most people who look into it either have the Gene, the Trait or know a family member that has it. All round 15,000 people have it in the UK that is 15,000 people whom have a chance of getting mistreated by hospital staff Thats 15 thousand too many and another 250,000 who can help or are too scared to but have no way to help; who think their only duty to their family bloodline is to make children who don’t have Sickle Cell.

Editors notes

These points are really too basic and just spread propaganda about the condition with no real ‘Scientific basis’ although the pseudo science is accepted among the whole African and Caribbean culture. It needs to be stopped and the conditions need to be taken with the same seriousness, this is something I will have to explore in the next blog.

Whatever Moves Your Dial

Damilare. Not Your Typical

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Thank You For Reading… Please read my other Feature blogs:

A Dose of Optimism

A Portion of Humanity

Living Through Crisis

Addict Stigma // Opioid Crisis

What is a Crisis

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We go again,

A special thank you to the man with the eye. Among a few others in the industry he is one who is truly inspiring. A true man of culture and style personified. He is someone that struck up great fuss and is always a point of conversation in the room. As the premier Editor at Large Andre Leon Talley (A.L.T) earned his introduction in the game till he needed none. Manoeuvring perfectly in fashion with grace and confidence, in that A.L.T. As every black man should. Starting in Segregated North Carolina at the age of 12 Picked up his first issue of the bi-weekly Vogue magazine and absorbed all it had to offer, with an amazing attention to detail he was introduced to none other than Mademoiselle Vreeland while she was at W as she was losing her sight A.L.T. Was her hand & worked with, learned much and a mentee of the Vreeland Manifesto those six weeks, which gifted him a job at interview Magazine.

You can certainly say this man is truly about his business, he knows what he means and means well. He has made it possible for many who want to be like him to be so full of life and rich in the scene, as a black man and Icon his stripes are well earned. Sharing spaces with the likes of Andy Warhol his eye for fashion led him onwards and upwards, a true man in the mix he spent a great deal having a blast at Studio 54 his eye for style drew in many of the artistic royalty we know today. I can only imagine how magnetic his allure was.

As someone who volunteered at W, worked at Interview & Vogue the doors he is able to open his word will one far. Well respected his allure draws in names such as Bianca Jagger of Kanye West & Gloria Von Thurn und Taxis by his account. Giving you an idea of his aire of influence and the respect he holds within the culture and fashion community. All star champion and mentor, to Isabella blow & confidant to Anna Wintour (who’s approval is obviously sought after) may have done it all and a bit more. Adored by Yves Saint Laurent, & Diana Ross, Naomi Campbell, Oprah.

Although he is all of these things he deems himself insecure ‘I’m insecure to this very day’ notion to a softer side of his character, a well rounded man raised by his grandmother & great-grandmother he stays humble man who gives all grace to God and always learning from those humble beginnings embellished on his memories has also said though, ‘my confidence is armour & grace… my armour is my knowledge’ quoting Judge Judy ‘they keep me here for my knowledge’ must. Solidifying his place standing next to any designer or fashion writer in any room in the world. The mantra of working twice as hard is lost on him but it’s clear to see he holds 5 times more knowledge than the average Joe keeping his wits about him.

You can hear by him he talks much of how close he is to religion & how it holds him down. It probably was the key for Sunday’s meant everything ‘you wore your best clothes… starch was heated on the stove… shirts were like cardboard’ his grandmother even would attend a segregated hat store and suffer but it was what was needed because style was just so important to all of the people (grandmothers aunties & uncles) around him. The way he emotes introspectively tells the story of a man who knows who he is because he was allowed to be by those closest to him and if he could be himself at home he is himself everywhere in the world

We need not go on. A man from the people bred by the culture full of electricity who lives fabulously and with every bit of lustre a black man should. Well aware he is standing on the shoulders of his ancestors. This man oozes Divinity.

Whatever Moves Your Dial,

Not your typical (@nytypical)