Not Your Typical: Receive From Within So You Can Give Without #PrimeNYT

We Go Again,

Are You Living your life or the life you have to live to make someone else happy? This is a question I asked all of my mentees one way or the other, as I find (especially if he/she is not creative) most of them are doing one thing or the other to create a better life for someone else and not themselves.

I say, If your reason to be great; for love; for happiness exist outside yourself i.e. in you wife, in your kids, for your parents, for the world. There is a chance that you can be taken for granted or even worse you can resent those that don’t see the worth in your actions you put forward to make them happy, to make yourself happy.

Have you ever found yourself complaining like, I can’t believe them, do they know all I do for them do they know how I have protected and defended them even when they’re not around or, I have slaved around all this time, I go to work come back, go to. work come back just so I can earn money to feed them, to clothe them, to get them gifts and this is how they treat me? I know I can see myself saying something like that at times.

When you’re a kid your parents do more than what they deem reasonable to make you happy, they want everything for you, but there’s another side, for those that got shouted at for doing something “bad” which you never knew was bad  which will have you thinking that your parents are tripping, this is that thinking. They think you’re ungrateful but you as a 7 year old have no dimensionality for gratitude so it must be built. So you take your Parents “I do this so we can do that and they should thank me”… Sounds about right, right? The only Problem is that with this type of energy where is the things that you do for yourself? is anything you do for yourself anything more than a hobby? Are you living the life you wanted to live or the life that would make them happy?

People will tell you if you want this type of person you will have to live that attracts them, Have you ever lived a life that attracted yourself though? You’re guaranteed to attract someone else for sure but how much of that is really you and how much of that is a facade. How long can you keep up that facade 2, 5, 10 years. Now you can’t even recognise yourself or the person you was before you started trying to attract this person and what you had to do to keep up to make this person “HAPPY”?

I see people say they are gonna get their kids all sorts of things now their kid is dressed in Gucci and that kid is doing kid things in the baby Gucci clothes and the parents say “don’t do that its expensive”… Okay but the child would like to do child things, the kid didn’t look at this luxury outfit and say they wanted it, you did.

Sometimes we work ourselves into a state that was never needed more requested of us, we wanted it for them, we were doing these things to make THEM happy. We weren’t doing it because it was asked of us sometimes it makes you happy to see them happy other times we do things because we think it will make them happy, then if it doesn’t we still request of them gratitude or happiness or affirmation of love.

I say for those times when NOBODY asked you to do these things for them, do it from the openness of your heart and its just something you really wanted to do for them too matter what they thought of the action. Other than that do what is requested and let them know how hard that action might be, then do it anyway, surprise them sometimes with the thing they wanted and knew it was hard for you to give. This will mitigate all sorts of resentment from you and increase the gratitude of all parties involved be that your wife/husband, kid, parents or the world.

With that in mind we are able to give from a relaxed point of view, things you were going to do you’ll do without the lustful expectation of gratitude and things people want from you they can have and give the gratitude you desire multiplied because they know what you had to go through to get it without you putting on a front of ease and poise to please your ego and warping their mainframe into making them think it was no big deal.

Stay composed and keep your neck up

LINK FOR PAPERBACK https://amzn.to/2nslV8A
LINK FOR EBOOK https://amzn.to/2lTFg1S

We’re learning more of – Whatever Moves Your Dial

Damilare. Not Your Typical

Follow my socials Instagram: @nytypical Twitter: @nytypical

Please check out Some of my Thoughts On:

For some longer form write ups Read some of My Dialogues

Click here for my Essays 

To learn more about Owning Your Own Ship – OYOS  

Cultivating my Paradise on Earth

we go again,

I am of the belief God works through me, I am not perfect and I am only an instrument for his work.

For years I worked as though I was a man walking the earth for myself. A man, what is a man. Someone who picks up Earthly skills in order to create a life he sees fit – a paradise on earth.

That was only half the ticket for life though, for years I’ve always known exactly what I should be doing and how I am supposed to be serving. Really and truly I wasn’t ready to accept this thing I would call a burden on my back, I was wrong to think of it that way, in fact it was a mission made specially for me and the skills I collect are what I need to execute it.

Sometimes though it does feel the weight of the world is on your back to execute, mostly because men like me carry the burden of others. In fact let’s not call it a burden, it was their mission.

I was carrying their mission on my back, fro the past 4/5 years I was helping put people in positions they always wanted to be in – in a way to distract myself from what I should be doing. Which is walk-in in my purpose, part of my purpose is putting people in employment and getting people to bags they always wanted. Certainly it’s right to do that, but when you walk in your purpose I see there are certain people that gravitate towards you who need the essence you bring much more.

When I release myself from others mission and took the burden as a mission but a monolith which I chip away at and cultivate into something that looks a lot like a fulfilled life on earth that is what I call Cultivating my Paradise.

Life as I see it is walking in the purpose that God gave you and cultivating that into something worth living in. He gives you much more than you bargain for, your positives will be much more when you do this I can tell by my small experience of Cultivating my Paradise on Earth that this is truly the way it’s supposed to be and all I can say is Alhamdulillah for making me see it accept it and having the skills now to execute it.

Working together with the purpose you were created for and alchemically shaping that into a place of beauty is the way forward.

As you are never given the full picture because we’re supposed to fill the pieces ourselves with our skills we collected over our time here and fulfil it the way it should be seen.

So in turning the burden to a purpose and forest into a farm prepared for harvest you create fulfilment in yourself and others because you’re much more positive than what is known of you because you feel good about what you’re doing, as what is more fulfilling than walking in your purpose on earth and knowing you have the exact skills to execute it?

I don’t know and don’t see anything more fulfilling than that yet. I’ll let you know if it changes

We’re learning more of – Whatever Moves Your Dial

Damilare. Not Your Typical

Follow my socials Instagram: @nytypical Twitter: @nytypical

Please check out Some of my Thoughts On:

For some longer form write ups Read some of My Dialogues

Click here for my Essays 

To learn more about Owning Your Own Ship – OYOS