OYOS: Talent, Execution, Elite Mentality and Performance – all parts of the equation

We go again

Live update. I’m doing stuff that I have never done and it’s stressing me out.

I think this is the real testament to my elite personality/mentality comes in play, I won’t lie I’ve relied most my life on pure talent and excellence of understand my craft.

This, what I have been doing for years does not work here. I have to push, I have to press towards, I have to craft new ways and study things I’ve never studied before to overcome these hurdles.

When they said talent wasn’t everything they were actually right, I had no clue. I’ve never needed more than talent to create quality work or come up with quality ideas.

You see execution is a skill, people will tell you it’s hard work I don’t see hard work as much of a function. There are people with elite mentalities that start out purely with execution and then get the great ideas, I’m obviously on the other end of the spectrum but I’m coming u on a force I have never faced before. The need to execute beyond my station the need to execute and create quality work.

I know it sounds daft but I have only needed one or the other. But both? You’re telling me I have to execute and make it a high level? Okay now we’re stepping on uncharted territory.

See some people will think I’m mad for thinking this but I’m making this post just for those that know what I’m talking about and to myself for remembering the emotions in the moment for future purposes and to channel that & to release it so I can just get on with what I need to get on with Cos I sure am going to do it it’s just now I’ve caught on. If it helped you reading, great. We’re on this journey together.

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OYOS On Top of Your Game

You said you were gonna do something and didn’t. Wow, there are no words for the thing I feel when I don’t execute. It has to be the most uncomfortable feeling there is out there. To say to yourself completely and wholly believe that I was going to do it. A man must take the utmost responsibility for who he is and who he portrays himself to be. You’ve created this image, this veneer, it is your responsibility for anything that comes your way.

Someone so controlled and excellent with words must be wary as their ability to string what must seem like the perfect sentence can come off as honesty, slight or anger when their intentions aren’t aligned with what they say. I cannot just be so cavalier about what I say – I can/can’t/will/won’t do -, this is your moment this is your time to make a mark, your words really do become opportunities. you’ve said you were good at this thing for so long have you taken the time to get great.

There have been really crucial moments where I have given my CV out and my qualifications and experience were perfect but my recent portfolio didn’t match, not because my skills are average but because my what I had to show for myself was. Whether or not I’m excellent, the business doesn’t care my work got deleted, whether my Equipment wasn’t running well at the time, or all the digital files for said work got wiped. It is still my responsibility to make sure that happens less and less. I take full ownership of my fuck ups because they’re mine and I do my best to find an equal or better solution to my problem.

With age comes experience – or people assume so. Theres going to be a time you won’t get that junior position phone call anymore. Your graduation date tips off your minimum age so people will be looking for more experienced work from you. Can you show it? Not saying your work must be worlds apart in the effort put in – we learn to work smarter not harder in an office space. You’re given a key role, does the story in your portfolio reflect that? I’ve noticed this isn’t just artistically, in creative studios. (Business smarts dictate you record how you made a business better, how many sales you made and your value to that company in the time you were there. A case study.) Is the freelance work your doing telling a story of you being able to give more & earn more? EVEN IF ITS FOR FREE! Are the case studies you put together going to pay off? Are your presentation boards in order? The Pitch decks, selling? Real questions you got to ask yourself. You better hope they are, for you not for them. As long as those are in order you will be able to accomplish all things, because when you have all of these things on record you gain something with leverage. Have you been in the position where the work you are doing for a job role is more than was required of you and wasn’t on your responsibilities list? See, that’s what I’m talking about. Now you’re thinking like a pro, that’s leverage.

With age comes experience or it’s assumed to be. during this 23-27 period before you get your more senior /mid-level serious  job offers coming in only so much is asked of you, it is only for us to find out what that is. When you said you were gonna accomplish something for this particular position or path you chose remember you must work for your betterment as well as the betterment of the company. You don’t need to go it alone or Run your own enterprise to know you must be accountable for your own words, your own actions, when you said you were going to do something go do it.

There have been times where I took time off in my sales jobs. (My past doesn’t lie everything is recorded) my performance told me the truth at that moment, I was unable to repeat the results of the past. I didn’t know I wasn’t my past accolades, what I done in University was for them, what I done for my previous job was for them, what I do today is for me, its for this moment.

What I really mean by that is never lose the enthusiasm and never – by any means – rest on your laurels. When I learned this is when I started learning about personal production and positioning. To be able to create my own value just as I did like a spry kid selling chocolates out my backpack and Iced juice during summer terms, of school. I am to be the guy that always produced the goods in the moment I need them most. The best way to do that is to always be ready so you never have to get ready. Knowing my timings, assessing my skill level making sure my CV is up-to-date (as in I can still do all the things I said I could do) are all part of this game called Professional Careers

always remember,

Whatever Moves Your Dial

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OYOS Acres Of Diamonds

You live in your acres of diamonds

The only reason I’ve ever done as good as I have is by this one thought and philosophical context. However it goes never search too far outside yourself as what you desire might be in a place most familiar. The type of thoughts that run through my mind when people say; ‘maybe I should move out my city.’ Or ‘you could make more money doing this’.

It has been a tale that has been told time and time again that I always have the skills I need at my disposal. I don’t know if I was born talented or super smart but I do know where my strengths lie. My words, my creativity, my vision. Something that uses anyone of those is where my acres of diamonds lay, I have created opportunity after opportunity for myself using/displaying less than 20% of my capabilities. I often think to myself what if I dedicated myself to one specific area how would I feel, where would I bee if I did that for years on end, however I still have it in my mind all my gifts are mine to use and to continue using because they are the gifts granted to me. It really humbles me when I find some people don’t have any or don’t know what their purpose is. It give me more drive to move towards my purpose and create more opportunities for myself so I can soon grant opportunities for others. That is my true work thing ‘work so hard at my jobs so I can create more jobs’ and anything That will allow me to do that I will.

Back to what you have even though It’s minimal you can always do something. I remember when I was dead broke literally no money and my computer broke, all I had was a Mickey Mouse pencil and a couple felt tip pens. This led me to start my fashion Illustration career which I still practice and commission to this day, even though I’m a photoshop guy I decided to use spare paper around the house to hone my manual skills. I remember being broke in university and the only thing I had in my cabinet was corned beef, I whipped that up into gourmet level meal … yeah I said it … GORMET! Remember having no new Ideas and being in-between jobs, all I had was a lawn mower I decided to go round to all my neighbour and ask if they need their grass cut, this particular hustle earned me thousands.

At my ropes end I find I am at my most ingenuous creating some sort of creative endeavour to pursue. Not just in the creative arts but in sales/ online advertising and project development. When you’re at your most scrappy and enthusiastic negativity finds itself out of your way allowing you to open another opportunity. I know for me and my awkward life I have been down roads that I didn’t think would lead me to money or any type of success. As a creative I do what I’m passionate about and the little I need finds its way to me, the will be a time when I find myself in surplus! I feel it in my spirit and theres no way I won’t allow it to happen so I move towards it everyday – Because I need to – I have to – theres no way I cannot.

Creating opportunities is what I do best, I will always want to because it feels right find your own acres of diamonds where you sit right now its definitely there it just needs a little digging and refining. Opportunity waits for no man however when you’re feeling noble and honest within yourself True opportunity was always yours to begin with. It was just waiting for you to grab it.

Whatever Moves Your Dial

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OYOS Part 3/3 Law of Trafalgar

These the laws of Trafalgar, the very same that I live by today are more of a sentiment an ode to entrepreneurship rather than a recount of a moment in time. For Trafalgar’s Law was a build up that started in Uni & the beginning of a new Era. The world was seen in a different light, you can say I was in the New World

It all started in my Homies room where I shed tears for all the dumb shit that I was doing and how unserious of a candidate I was for success. I told myself I was going to make it one day but I needed to be serious about my life. Remember at this point I was making more money than I’ve made any year prior, but to me, it wasn’t enough. I needed more I needed it to be real and I needed it to be mine.

I started with my attire I needed to feel good, by any means. Professional every day, without fail. this is the same time now I went after the jobs I wanted and successfully conquered many days at the same time I put myself out there and started promoting what I wanted. Live streaming was my medium, I lit it up as an influencer. I was more aware and more accepting of my surroundings creating situations and ‘following the money.’ Because at the start of everything you must follow something, and not being broke was a priority.

After leaving University and being back home, home. I looked at my surroundings and prepared and visualised what I wanted to happen. After declining an offer at Jacobs, I needed to create some source of income, it had to be quick and needed a source to generate income. Simple, I will be a handyman, they’re independent willing to fail and I could easily make £100. a day (which we did).

Simple right. Yes. But nothing ever comes easy and sourcing things by yourself is a full irritation. I’m not one to do things for myself so I told myself simply help someone make money you’ll definitely make something. So I called a great friend Hugo, asked how he was doing. (Bear in mind we’ve done a little business before) Coming from my power base he was easy to talk to, we both wanted better for ourselves and are willing to try our hardest to get it.

This is where our talk in trafalgar square took place. where I learned of my true power as a leader. filled with so much purpose I spoke and he listened. we exchanged many words and as we we’re seated I felt our minds on the same wavelength, when I spoke to him about my dreams for a great business he wanted nothing more than to help me along the way. How I would like to see it is that ‘a man of principles came to me first for help’. This is the only respectable way I can view it because after that talk we learned and spoke for months on end committing ourselves to a high performance attitude with nothing more than enthusiasm behind us. We truly moved like a whirlwind, as one, like a wildfire.

That High didn’t last long as high performance leads to high friction. and personalities clashing. However nothing gets in the way of the one true vision as I learned you must always remind people of & be a symbol of such, embodying every characteristic of the person you said you would be for them, a very taxing position but a worthwhile one long term. The problem is, a high performance attitude doesn’t last too long in someone who isn’t truly prepared for it and quite frankly I got tired of being the guy to lean on – my personal folly – I knew not of what it really took to be a leader.

This is where I learned the dark side to my charisma. as much as I give spiritually is as much that gets taken from me, with no positive spirit give back only negative energy can fuel the head. and thats toxic. No one needs that, amongst other thing this led Hugo and I to part ways, I never want to feel like a boss and I never want it to be just me as the driving force to someone else passion. They need a thing, I can be that thing but not for long, one must learn to run alone or not at all.

It took me two years to complete this, when I started OYOS the first part was over a year away and the second was months, writing about something in the thing isn’t something I like to do having true retrospect where you can look at all parties actions fairly is where I’d rather place my hat especially in Law of Trafalgar. We learned so much I’d have hated to create a bias representation of any part involved and this is just the light read version, when the book and/or film get involved I will surely use my all to write it exactly how it went. Till then

This has been Not Your Typical [As I go as in this 2018]

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OYOS — Owning Your Own Ship 2/3 (Jacob the Jeweller)

Where we left off I was recently trumped the Gatekeeper but snubbed by a high end used car salesman. Keeping that in mind my brain was moving faster trying to figure out how I had done it the first time and wanted to repeat the action.

Moving at double time, my change of pace was evident in my stride, heart ferociously thumping from my last head to head with a senior management frame. I can honestly say I had a smile on my face, I had done something I had never done before,  I had the cajones to do something 90% of people had never done. Those that would say I took a loss can’t even fathom doing it for themselves. For this, I was happy.

Now I head into the hub of the city on foot I took a b line straight to my next point, The Jeweler. When I met Jacob is probably still one of my favored points at the time, the moment I never let anything that happened affect my attitude towards what I needed to accomplish.

Taking all forces into consideration I walked into the Jewellers with an assertion about me. Multiple female store attendants around me I said simply

Me:
‘I would love to work here can I speak to the manager?’

She kindly showed me to a woman I knew full well wasn’t the manager. no fuss from me though. From previous experience, I gladly accepted the challenge. The phrase I believe changed everything was;

“I don’t believe you can learn anything from my CV that you can’t learn right now.”

I think this line is the Line that made me kindred and got me my meeting with the Managing Director Jacob. I was asked to take a seat, like a commoner, sitting down is like death if you cannot handle it correctly. That in mind I kept my mind clear of all prepositions, doing and acting like myself is what got me here, Let’s not change anything now. I waited a solid ten mins for the same woman to come back and say… “Will you be free in half an hour, he’s with a client.” When you have nothing but time, it must be spent doing things like bending to the power frame, I was still overjoyed I got passed the gate-keeper I said ‘of course I can.‘ With a look gleaming with positivity.

Most people who weren’t prepared would be spinning at this point ‘omg‘ ‘I can’t believe it‘ ‘why do I have to wait so long‘ ‘Do they know who I am‘ The answer to all of those is don’t be a moron they know nothing, you are nobody until you’ve made them believe you’re somebody… Now get your head out your arse, please. You have a blank slate and opportunity to prove yourself, now let’s make this a movie. Good God.

The story of the detour I will release sometime later, the day hour I bested a store clerk,

The story of the detour I will release sometime later, the hour I bested the black clerk. Let’s just get to the meat and potatoes of this story. I got back a little earlier than usual, I didn’t care I was excited and wanted to meet this man who had been so elusive. I got there, they asked me if I wanted a coffee, I said yes. Big mistake. The coffee was piping hot and didn’t cool till like half an hour later, they knew what they were doing. Only I didn’t know what they were doing. (At this point to me a coffee was only a coffee and I love lattes.) Always get the water sealed bottle or nothing, needless to say, I burned my tongue and it was furry the whole time. It didn’t stop me as I always burned my tongue with coffee but the fact of the matter is it’s just silly to ask.

Just to put it out there, in retrospect they did everything in their power to show that they were better than me and I was too nieve to even notice. Still am just a little more understanding of what I’m worth and my stature in many more situations. Respect given and taken is important, this situation demanded a healthy balance. Let me put it out there I got the Job. Just didn’t take it. 

Jacob walks in standing well over six foot, and a strong ability to look over my head. I still see his hand reach out to grip mine, we gripped hands and I gave off the most beaming expression I had that day. I had finally done it, I got past the gatekeeper and lead myself right to the decision maker. The hardest thing to do in the area of work and accomplished in the second attempt. Of course, I had a beaming expression on my face. This was the GUY!

We both sat down and got to brass tacks, the exchange of frames was so powerful our back and went on for a good 90minutes. I was there to preach one thing and the thing I knew best, principles. My guiding principles that got me to where I was to that day selling and what it means to sell, how I sold in the rain How I sold to a deaf man, yes DEAF man. Never scamming my way into or out of a situation. Jacob spoke about the long-term values of the company how to bring a customer back. How to have someone who is just like them. The creativity in the position was high the way you could advance was far. Defining questions I came in with

“How much does your best person make?”

“How long have they been with you?”

“How much does the worst person make?” 

“What would you say differentiates you from the competition?”

I say that to say this it wasn’t just about emotions and being there and being brazen, it was much much more. The ability to understand what a “Leader” thinks about his people and to read when someone is telling the truth is a big and great thing to fully grasp. You nor I can work for just anyone, this is the thing I see many miss. What separated me wasn’t just my brazen nature (back then) but the values I knew I wanted to exist in the company I worked for. You see people haven’t thrown any big number at me because they felt I had bullied my way into the position but because of the value someone with my mindset brought to the table. Whether a top earner in the company or not, a mindset is contagious when put on display.

In a nutshell, I won Jacob over not because of my brazen nature but because of my attitude towards my work. I prefaced my ability to win him over because of what I had accomplished. And I was very accomplished in a specific way. As long as he is managing the store I always have a place there, some unexpected events happened and I ended back home. Where the Law was laid and the event in Trafalgar took place.

Whatever Moves Your Dial

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Owning Your Own Ship – OYOS 3 Part Play 1/3

We Go Again,

What would you do if you could do anything? This is quite literally the question I asked myself when I cauterized the hemorrhage – Dropped out of uni – My Mindset for what I could achieve was at an all time high, I had just finished my last assignment, became an early periscope influence and became a top t-shirt salesman in my town to small businesses. Utilizing skills I developed on my own I felt invigorated to do it again and again and again.

The first part of getting a job. Get a job, and what’s the best job. Yourself! Wise words from a phenomenal mentor. I will write another blog about how I became “Not so Typical.” I was able to really bolster myself even in the face of massive losses and adversity. This is the story of me getting a Job called “Owning my Own Ship.”All because I did not feel like waiting.

Let me set the scene, I was in such a great place mentally after selling the way I did giving items to customers I saw myself doing this Long term. No matter what I will always want to deliver phenomenal products to a client, no matter how much blood sweat and tears it takes – I promised it I can’t be in the place to make excuses you deserve a great product – And namely I do not lie cheat or steal from anyone, this did not hold well at all in some cases.

This However is the story of how I “won” at a Car company. One I have been to a couple of other times as a customer, laughable now I know just as a preface. That year I came there maybe twice (Not so important). What is though is me telling my parents I will not be completing my course. They threw one hell of a conniption, to say the least, they are no excuses type of people. I didn’t want to move back home and I had roots in my city. In my mind I was not going anywhere, this was my problem my business partner had left uni for home. So I was out of work and soon out of money and poverty& homelessness did not smell well. I was somewhat desperate but I was as confident as I could be.

As the guy that was always spouting “nonsense” about never giving up and following your dreams as a 20SMTHNG on periscope I put my money where my mouth was, bet. My job was me. I was going to work it. I put on my best dressed, looked up my companies and put myself out there.

Strutting into BMW with my chest out my feathers primed I was ready to get a job. walk into the “Gatekeepers”

Me:
I heard you have jobs for a used car salesman can I speak to… Please

Let’s call him Richard as the shorthand for Richard is Dick

Gatekeeper:
They aren’t here you can call this number and come back with an appointment

I laughed in my head because I could tell she was lying, even though this is Not a Typical thing, and it was so on brand. I was still shaking in my wingtips. Regardless, what I did I still regard as one of the coolest things I’ve done till this day.

I called her bluff and called the number. Yep as I was walking out I swiftly called the number and as she picked up I turned around and said. ‘Oh is this Richards office’ and looked her dead in the eyes, She was stumped and I was told to take a seat at the back, the other gatekeeper got me a coffee and that was that for 5 minutes.

Not taking no for an answer and beating down doors I got routed and re-routed, my tenacity was at an all time high and my self-effacing nature took no prisoners. Well done me, I found him. Knocking down the door I went in blind and assessed nothing. I looked him dead in the eyes stayed at the door and said bluntly

Me:
I’m here for a job

Richard:
drop me a CV like everyone else

A few more words were exchanged and I looked him in the face and knew he wasn’t ready for the type of energy I would bring to the table at the time. I fell flat on my face.  The day had just begun, I felt the sub was a take for me to understand the flow and pacing of what needed to be said I couldn’t stop someone from feeling a certain type of way about me and I was once told I am steadfast and self-affirming to let most things get in my way… With this in mind, I knew it was just the beginning of the day and that car dealership was not my only stop. On to the next one, even more, Zealous than before. Time to change the tempo and feed off the  momentum of the day

Whatever Moves Your Dial

Damilare. Not Your Typical

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