Be Your Brothers Keeper, not a keeper from your Brothers Destiny

Love thy brother don’t lay with him. Leave that to the destiny God has laid out for him

What does that mean?

In the world I was bought up in many of us didn’t have father figures, there was rarely any in these spaces so we had to look after each other. We grew up on movies and shows like; Remember the Titans, 5brothers, Scarface, Godfather, The Sopranos, Naruto, One Piece, Prison Break. Shows of that ilk that displayed to you what a brother was supposed to be and how you should be. There were also messages in Gangs, Football and all team sports related shows that men work better as a family and a unit treat each other with respect and cover him. Be your brothers keeper, have my back I have your, lean on me. Messages of support and oneness bonds that can be.

(This is directed towards men because I am one but I’m sure it happens in all types of relationships)

These messages get skewed in hard times and when the relationship isn’t as strong as it once was. People will change and grow, the men that became your brothers start getting fear of loss and may start pulling you down out of a jaded sense of love because of how scary change is. Many men come from a really good place the crabs in the bucket mentality may develop and schemes may arise to hold each other back and down.

The point isn’t to destroy a great relationship but to build an adult relationship built on change and growth, the biggest deal right now is that when a relationship is built on youth and childish actions like clubbing, drinking, smoking keeping score and chasing skirt, it leaves out room to not grow that ground is marshland, yes you can build up one story maybe two or three, but when the idea is to grow exponentially it is not solid enough to reach any heights higher than humanly possible. In fact it will only be torn down by acts of nature. The money is missing, love gets involved, someone gets to their life goals quicker it will be hard for anyone to handle that.

The relationship has to be built on the greatest ground possible, you can start on the marsh, meet each other there, learn you’re equals then move from that land to a more solid fertile land built to last. Then you must engineer ideals both of you can rely on in all situations, if not there’s chances of failure. What does this look like:

  • understanding each other honestly
  • Create philosophies you can agree on
  • Know how you can treat women
  • What is money to the both of you

There are simple idealistic thugs that are so pertinent to building an honest personal relationship because in reality, more times a man sees you with a girl and sees you drifting. Instead of thinking that room should be filled by his own Mrs he’s thinking that void can only be filled by you and now he becomes a source of toxicity to your relationship causing you to cheat or even making it seem okay to when your true happiness is being with your Mrs. There’s certain man that see you doing well creating equity in your business, or even you want to start a business and he wants to say you sure, you tell him you’ve been on it for years and you’re ready to bite the bullet now he becomes a source of doubt to your success, even you hit the belly on one of your clients then he’s looking at your businesses money as yours and his money and now you kill your business by spending your hard earned cash on nights out.

If you’re this type of friend stop. I’m speaking directly to the people that feel bad wen their friend is doing good without them. On the business front it’s hard to even structure your finances and other things but on a pure relationship basis if you feel your friend drifting and it’s not a terrible thing and he seems happier then it’s your job to be oxygen to that happiness because that drift can steer you to becoming a better person and direct you to your destiny because what is the point of you being cheeky to your friends business or girl when he’s never wanted that for you. You have to know yourself, there’s no need to read any books to know this but you know the emotion of when you feel down about others feeling good without you and it’s your job to snuff that out.

Everybody has their own time and yours will come the spotlight will be on you and in your time you will be the cause for celebration. So when it’s your friends turn you celebrate because you know yours will come and there is no time to be hating.


Your friend would do terrible without his success and if your relationship isn’t built on true emotion (then what’s the point) you may not know how hard and fragile he’s feeling on the inside and the type of light this woman or business brings him.


Fan that flame if your friend is trying to feel better about themselves and become a greater person let that beacon shine.


That sparing wind you feel between you two find something to hold you down use that extra time to explore your wants and needs and what will be your life’s purpose because lord knows you may also need one.

It’s important that you know your place and role in this world brotherhood is so important and if you know yourself it’s even more important to know when you’re being toxic and when you’re not. If your friend really loves this person or this work have a fiesta for him because when you’re up you’re also going to want and need it.

There’s enough people running against you and your clique and there can’t be infighting between brothers because of a disagreement or someone feels like their being outshined. Treat that shine as a light house in a storm to wake you up to the fact of life, you have to grow change and evolve because whether you realise it or not, you want to be better and different and new elements of life & change does that to men.

ARAH on Youtube: Streetwear, The Defiant Style

Newest video talking about streetwear and the culture of ignorance around it – so giving my thoughts feelings and points to why the streetwear people talk about is not the streetwear I live – this is a topic I love because I got to shed light on some really well-dressed people, this was a really fun video and can’t wait to make more

I’ve grown up with a world-renowned understanding of Streetwear and the Street Style aesthetic, that it didn’t fall under a particular designer’s philosophy or a prototypical aesthetic i.e. Punk Grunge Rocker Business Lux. In the Urban Environments people had to make do with style and their own personal creativity when it came to dressing, this was due to either the resources and any person’s creativity.

Due to those people that didn’t grow up in these environments streetwear has been procured by the dubbed hypebeast aesthetic. This bastardised what would be well known in the environment, as someone from this locale I would like to clear up/ add my two cents on something that I grew up with as a general understanding.

Enjoy the full video

A Note: To the Future me — A capsule for remembrance

After this recent podcast I’m going to stop bothering myself with the outcome of projects. I don’t even know if it’s my place to even care about my work and my subjective perfectionism because that is the most stressful part of the process wondering if what you wrote down will resonate.

I know what my stance is, there’s times where I pour my heart out on the floor six is my works in rhyme and reason and book Melancholy Maelstrom, and other times where I draw my works from the infinite substance and project it to the work. Neither my Performance of my Soul nor Production of The Ether ever asks me what I think.

I have a feeling much of what I do just needs to exists, after doing the best I do in the lab having my work available to the general public is a major point for its true existence. Bothering ourselves with the outcome can cause stagnation, there are many things out of our control but one thing in our control is its existence.

I write this in part as a Stamp in time and a capsule for remembrance where we work for the existence of experience of the senses and not the subjection of the people.

That being said, still. How people feel is none of my concern and how I feel is also none of my concern. Completion is the point for me and experience is the point of the work.

Resource can be a denominator of experience but it’s never a restriction of the worth of an idea or a prosecution of my identity. It’s a formula for acceleration of excelling’ and not a factor for excellence.

All in I do my best on all my works it’s an example for anyone involved. If you experience a sense, even entitlement to comment, it’s none of my business because it stops being my business as soon as the experience of its existence is had

Dec 23, 2019 7:34 PM