Lessons from Melancholy Maelstrom: A Diary of Silver Linings

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Spent the past 4 years learning and had my health and career on the line to take this first step and start my professional life this way.

My first book Melancholy Maelstrom: A Diary of Silver Linings

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My life has been innately negative From the start and it hasn’t stopped the thing I was blessed with was skill to convey message and execute it thoroughly .

A life of a genius’ pain. I don’t live one without the other

My skill helps me stand tall in the face of all adversity pain and trauma, endlessly bittersweet and always a lesson learned. My life as a case study for those that go through it all in life and are unable to field the lessons or see past their trauma to use mine as a guide

The good from my life comes from the greatness of my skill and those that recognise it. My trauma was born with me my pain perpetuated it I having the skill to still work while it exists is no mere feat. Although I don’t ask for applause I ask for us all to do better

i want no company in misery I want the world to love and life for the greatness and betterment of all humanity. My heart pains for all people in terrible situations and I use that pain to paint the canvas in hopes to give somewhat of a reflection in order to heighten minds for a better tomorrow.

My finger is long wrought but I know this is the right way to go. This type of education, learning through art is a vision of mine. Not many are here for it but I hope to create great works that stand the test of time so whenever a group is downtrodden they can look to my words for guidance

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A Note on Sickle Cell: The Addict Stigma & Opioid Crisis ‘We are in pain not addicts’

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While in pain the fastest course of action is Painkillers from Paracetamol to stop a fever and Ibropofen to quell inflammation all the way to Opioids to numb the whole body completely from the real excruciating pain of a crisis.

With such pain it is very important it gets dealt with in haste, however Sickle Cell patients have to deal with being thought of as an addict as they have to use high caliber of drug to deal with insufferable pain. Most of these medications are not available to the general public, as a Sickle Crisis sufferer you are taught from young to stay informed and be vigilant about your medical condition so having such information can be seen as a catch 22, that being said should it really be at the cost of the sufferers?

This particular blog addresses the stigma which tells doctors that Sickle Cell patients are PainKiller addicts on top of not believing black pain as detailed in a portion of humanity — (please check out the blog as they relate heavily) they believe that Sickle Cell patients present as Opioid addicts — this causes some of the patients to have longer wait times and to be tested to ensure to the Doctor in question this patient has Sickle Cell.

These prior exams have a negative effect on patients, further research shows there is no president for Sickle Cell patients ever being addicts. A study shows patients are less likely to get addicted to painkillers due to the natural nature of the pain. All the while America is in the middle of an “Opioid Crisis” and more and more people being hooked on prescription pills like Percocet’s Oxy and Codeine all of which are exactly the pills used to handle chronic pain making it really bad new for Sickle Cell patients who have been lumped in with abusers.

A great deal of Sickle Cell patients as well as I, dislike having to rely on taking certain pain medication more often than not those sufferers who decide to hold off taking pain medication until the last moments. Pain Killers do not cure anything on the part of the patients there relieves the pressure of pain; some situations end up like my anecdotal evidence in Living Through a Crisis.

I have been looked at as an addict more times than I have actually been treated for my pain; prior to ever getting proper attention to my medical emergency, this irks especially when there is no basis scientific or factual basis of this more often than not its a ‘pseudo-analysis based on what presents as signs of addiction…’ I want to changed that.

I do believe though that opioids do not need to be the only solution, Sickle Cell Pain  is a symptom of the sickling of blood stuck in the blood vessel; the pathway is blocked so it causes irritation then further pain. That being said painkillers are used to stop feeling the pain while the Sickled blood runs its lifespan.

That being the case there must be other means to help your body stop feeling the pain or to effect the pain area directly. We can only wait for more clinical trials and better studies for how to beat treat this pain and for now it is controlled drugs. There are Studies with Cannabinoid (CBD) oils engineered to help patients suffering with

More information on the studies referenced

Mistreatment of Sickle Cell Patient

Further Reading: Research Study: Opioid crisis adds to pain of sickle cell patients

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Thank You For Reading… Please read my other Feature blogs:

A Dose of Optimism

A Portion of Humanity

Global Invisible Disease

Living Through Crisis

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A Note On Sickle Cell: What Helped me Help Myself — A dose of optimism

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I used to live my life reactionary to what people thought of my medical condition. I was used to it, so I disengaged early, I wanted to be a normal kid. I did grow curious, some part of me grew to seriously ask myself questions — wanting to understand if what people thought of me through the lens of my condition was the me I actually am — the look of like I’m suddenly part of a lower subset of human; the look of as if I live like a man on death row; the look of a decrepit helpless man. This is the look I find in their eyes.

All those looks were not controlled by me, it would have some very negative effects this fuelled me wanting to find the truth so I did my first ever “Google’s”. My first mistake, (never try find true documentation with the highest google answer). This would play on my mind for a while till I took a real look at what the findings were, I didn’t just search up on Wikipedia or the NHS website I would start to read medical journals and see how it is defined. My findings concluded, its not a death sentence.

(Even further I have come up with hypothesis on how to treat it; that is for another blog. )

How I saw myself looking after my body was different. I didn’t automatically start treating it like a temple. What I knew though is with strong bones, a strong body and cardio vascular system your quality of life will have levelled & or better than the next guy because sickle cell puts you in the position to have to live to a higher standard of nutrition as a basic prerequisite.

With all the people I have seen with the condition (numbering in the hundreds) those with less complaints eat a balanced diet go to the gym to move weights and don’t make reckless decisions, those with the best life have THE BEST LIFESTYLE. I want to stress it does not absolve crisis, it helps the pain tolerance to be higher because the body is generally in better shape and used to the stresses of those physical activities. So the friends that look ‘perfectly healthy’ will participate in sports activities and or socially drink and don’t “look like” they have sickle cell till they tell you look after themselves to a very high standard. Everyone though is healthy till they are not.

This means being an active participant in your health. I listen to my body and assess the situation, when I do that I have better control of my days. I’m not saying there aren’t days I can be gripped by pain, not at all. I know what’s best for me and what’s not so good for me when it comes to activity.

I feel great daily if I look after my body daily. This is something all of my brothers and sisters to know, I’m not the biggest guy but I started with the smallest weights and the shortest session but slowly year after year I gained more inner strength to compose myself and try out for my university Gymnastics team. Being very honest it was the best decision I made as an adult. Making sure within myself that this is my own body I own it, my identity is what I make of it, Sickle Cell is not me it exists while I’m alive but it will not condemn me to a life of fear and destitution.

If this makes sense pass it on, just like the death sentence disease idea that was probably passed on hand this piece of information over too, instead of looking at friends and family with desperate despair maybe this dose of optimism will do you all some good.

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Thank You For Reading… Please read my Other Feature blogs:

Living Through Crisis

A Portion of Humanity

Global Invisible Disease

Addict Stigma // Opioid Crisis

And visit Sickle Cell Companion  for all my other literature on Sickle Cell

Actively Sedentary, A Dialogue On: Energy Preservation

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I  am, still am part of the sentiment that I can work till I drop. What I am not part of is I can rest when I’m dead. There’s too much studies out there that prove how foul that can be on your system and lack of sleep can cause seizures ulcers and haemorrhaging. Not a cute way to go out all for this capitalist sentiment. 


My people are no longer slaves being a workhorse for the western workforce doesn’t sit right with me. Economic empowerment is one this, to disparage rest is a totally different thing. 


What I want to speak on is the way we are active despite physical movement. I think, everyday much like every human, my thoughts are spent on ideas to make me better at my craft and problem solving. I want to start a dialogue on how active being sedentary can be. 


As we all know the greatest sportsmen rest and spend millions on their bodies to run at their best when the time comes. Where we falter in our understanding is using your mind can expend just as much energy even when sedentary. We can confuse the two, think they’re mutually exclusive mostly because we are thinking (we think all day) and problem solving.

 In the creative field more than anywhere else the mind games and use of our minds can entrap us in a world of self destruction and leave us in the tundra of work ethic. 


There’s a difference between sedentary and stationary, being which sedentary is lack of physical movement but speaks none to the about movement of the mind and its inner-workings, stationary in this sense is lack of either.

 We must dispose of the understanding that sedentary means we are doing nothing and rest is only a healing apparatus, and being sedentary can also be in parity with activity. Mental activity. 


The construct of the past couple of days have been rest, rest is an assurance that energy can be regenerated and health preserved. It’s not easy to not think about rest and be about total hassle mentality, no rest no sleep just work.

 The thing for me is rest is a part of work. Working on your craft is one thing, working on energy preservation is an ideal that is not totally disseminated. Energy restoration to me is a big part of my work efforts to replenish the energy expended so the course of action can’t continue which now plays a big role in the work I do. 


Energy as a part of the complex mixture that concocts everyone’s life. Find an hour to replenish my own was in-part finding a pursuit of mine that Needed little to no energy but still part of the overall discourse that allows me to be better off. 

At first I practised a method I called procrastination where I would practice other disciplines of design be that interior architecture or fine and industrial design. 
This procrastination worked well as it expanded my worldview and I learned more.

There comes a point in practice where you must practise the craft else efforts feel wasted emotionally no matter how much they’re not. 


Today a professional level skill set is what it is. You must learn to adapt, skills aren’t special, their use value to you is special. Today my energy restoration consists of writing and reading, both expanding and learning the outlets but considerably more central to the foundational knowledge and less about skill as information is out there yet a considerable amount of it is all a part of a daily communication practise. 

Therein part no energy is wasted as time is put to better use understanding better ways to communicate ideas and fulfil daily KPI’s no matter the amount of reading or writing done. 


Energy Preservation techniques actively work in favour of the “workaholic”. No sedentary moment feels stationary active sedentary moments is a part of the restoration of my energy reservoir. 


Thinking about it like this allows me to feel time is not wasted as whether I’m meditating or thinking or reading and writing I am doing more to rest my mind just as an athlete takes time to rest their muscles. 
In the professional world studying a meaningful text is akin to pondering a mathematical equation. 

Without the expenditure of enormous amounts of energy, no one needs you to have read a whole book as it isn’t expected. 
What’s more expected is learning concepts that aid in higher development. So reading a page of a good book is worth more in a week or a month than reading the whole book because the meaning of the book isn’t in the wheelhouse of use. 

Remember use value is important, information you can’t use is like a heavy dumbbell you can’t lift, more often than not it is taking space in your mind and occupying space that could be of good use and because your brain is a tool of use it will find any means to get the information out including losing it. 


Now you’re left with the memory of a book you don’t completely understand. It becomes ‘a book I read one time said something like…’ for unfortunately what you were reading had no parts. 


Taking time to read meaningful bites of data or information that could expand your view learning in small amounts at a professional level gives you more time to digest information and place it in a useful space in your lexicon of thought. Doing the former leaves you with weight of no value, much like a trinket that is only useful as a paper weight or a door stopper. 


A Note On – My Journey to an Anti Erasure World

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I have been working tirelessly to establish a great reading list and recommendations for all the people I’m around who want to learn and are willing to learn.

With help from Ayo Ojo @theldnhauttie Iolo Edwards karen hunter Greg Carr I have established a reading list well enough for the people who have the will the want and the enthusiasm to learn about history without erasure.


For me it all started with buying history and archive books/lectures thinking I would learn good history by well meaning people.
Long story short the event that happened was history would erase the blackness within it. This sent me on a pursuit to learn more and put that in my work leading me to believe I was the first of many, well was I wrong.

Erasure has been a long standing tradition in the west, Ayo and I Discovered that there are many books and lectures out there by writers with more years and experience than us.

Phenomenally written in a language made for us to understand. Putting Karen and Greg in my crosshairs, these professors have an amazing show on YouTube made to fill the soul and educate the minds of us all and I dedicate time to reading them.

A mind that is out to learn what they can about fashion and history Ally we exchanged reading list of books to read so I could find better fulfilling my purpose within the fashion sphere. A strong ally in Iolo made for me to gain a photographically perspective of history.

In that comes this reading list. Specially built to be read by anyone, quite literally they all are in a language made to read regardless of level and full of information that can help anyone build the visual historical and contextual timeline of black influence in fashion.

There are many more books but these are the ones I offer to you all as a starting point on your journey as they were for me.

P.S. Anti Erasure is not a singular journey, many people out there are doing the work, seek them out; learn from them; grow with them; better the world

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A Diary of Silver linings: why I’m a creator you follow

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Last year I wrote a book, not many people know I have a book, but I told myself henceforth I will share it so whoever needs it can see it. I have a growing voice in fashion and much of my writing is not fashion related, obscure to me but that’s the world I live in and how my life is.

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Here’s my first book, I want to say, this book is unlike any of my other works, born of pain an anguish of a failed system I hope to change. Nothing to do with fashion and more to do with real life. I wrote this book before all of the troubles of last year and how there’s a silver lining to everything. Once you see it, seize it capture it and Burst it Open so the light it brings shines on everyone in your space. That’s what this book is about

Last year my people were dying on the streets, there were so many points where I saw the pain and suffering reflected in the people in the work I produced. I decided not to share my work because my words in the moment meant more than the words I had written, even though it was months apart.

There were times when I was asked in the moment to make fashion videos, I had created a show that was unlike any before it and meant so much to the community who were exposed to it. My spirit really said I should not do no productions because people in the streets, me being in the streets was more important than fashion.

I am not for your consumption

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There were moments that were necessary for others to escape that I could provide but it wasn’t in me to help people escape, I needed to live in the moment as a human just like everyone else and that needed to be respected because there were voices that I needed to listen to and I needed others to hear.

In America from Kobe and Pop Smoke, to Ahmaud Arbery, to the Lekki tollgate massacre 2020 did not let up I made the decision to live in it. Covid made sure we stewed in it, how could a man like me, raised by the people create an escape. I didn’t see it, if it was my job to do that I’m sorry.

My business took a hit because of and now I’m here again asking for peace, patience and guidance to work up again in the eyes of the people from this site and those that follow me.

My existence is not for your consumption, my work is. We are tied, but I was tired. I’m due to show up and show everyone again, why I am a creator you follow

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Please check out Some of my Thoughts On:

For some longer form write ups Read some of My Dialogues

Click here for my Essays

 On My series work

Spring Of The Rookie

Sickle Cell Companion