Lessons from Melancholy Maelstrom: A Diary of Silver Linings

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Spent the past 4 years learning and had my health and career on the line to take this first step and start my professional life this way.

My first book Melancholy Maelstrom: A Diary of Silver Linings

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My life has been innately negative From the start and it hasn’t stopped the thing I was blessed with was skill to convey message and execute it thoroughly .

A life of a genius’ pain. I don’t live one without the other

My skill helps me stand tall in the face of all adversity pain and trauma, endlessly bittersweet and always a lesson learned. My life as a case study for those that go through it all in life and are unable to field the lessons or see past their trauma to use mine as a guide

The good from my life comes from the greatness of my skill and those that recognise it. My trauma was born with me my pain perpetuated it I having the skill to still work while it exists is no mere feat. Although I don’t ask for applause I ask for us all to do better

i want no company in misery I want the world to love and life for the greatness and betterment of all humanity. My heart pains for all people in terrible situations and I use that pain to paint the canvas in hopes to give somewhat of a reflection in order to heighten minds for a better tomorrow.

My finger is long wrought but I know this is the right way to go. This type of education, learning through art is a vision of mine. Not many are here for it but I hope to create great works that stand the test of time so whenever a group is downtrodden they can look to my words for guidance

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A Note on Sickle Cell: The Addict Stigma & Opioid Crisis ‘We are in pain not addicts’

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While in pain the fastest course of action is Painkillers from Paracetamol to stop a fever and Ibropofen to quell inflammation all the way to Opioids to numb the whole body completely from the real excruciating pain of a crisis.

With such pain it is very important it gets dealt with in haste, however Sickle Cell patients have to deal with being thought of as an addict as they have to use high caliber of drug to deal with insufferable pain. Most of these medications are not available to the general public, as a Sickle Crisis sufferer you are taught from young to stay informed and be vigilant about your medical condition so having such information can be seen as a catch 22, that being said should it really be at the cost of the sufferers?

This particular blog addresses the stigma which tells doctors that Sickle Cell patients are PainKiller addicts on top of not believing black pain as detailed in a portion of humanity — (please check out the blog as they relate heavily) they believe that Sickle Cell patients present as Opioid addicts — this causes some of the patients to have longer wait times and to be tested to ensure to the Doctor in question this patient has Sickle Cell.

These prior exams have a negative effect on patients, further research shows there is no president for Sickle Cell patients ever being addicts. A study shows patients are less likely to get addicted to painkillers due to the natural nature of the pain. All the while America is in the middle of an “Opioid Crisis” and more and more people being hooked on prescription pills like Percocet’s Oxy and Codeine all of which are exactly the pills used to handle chronic pain making it really bad new for Sickle Cell patients who have been lumped in with abusers.

A great deal of Sickle Cell patients as well as I, dislike having to rely on taking certain pain medication more often than not those sufferers who decide to hold off taking pain medication until the last moments. Pain Killers do not cure anything on the part of the patients there relieves the pressure of pain; some situations end up like my anecdotal evidence in Living Through a Crisis.

I have been looked at as an addict more times than I have actually been treated for my pain; prior to ever getting proper attention to my medical emergency, this irks especially when there is no basis scientific or factual basis of this more often than not its a ‘pseudo-analysis based on what presents as signs of addiction…’ I want to changed that.

I do believe though that opioids do not need to be the only solution, Sickle Cell Pain  is a symptom of the sickling of blood stuck in the blood vessel; the pathway is blocked so it causes irritation then further pain. That being said painkillers are used to stop feeling the pain while the Sickled blood runs its lifespan.

That being the case there must be other means to help your body stop feeling the pain or to effect the pain area directly. We can only wait for more clinical trials and better studies for how to beat treat this pain and for now it is controlled drugs. There are Studies with Cannabinoid (CBD) oils engineered to help patients suffering with

More information on the studies referenced

Mistreatment of Sickle Cell Patient

Further Reading: Research Study: Opioid crisis adds to pain of sickle cell patients

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Thank You For Reading… Please read my other Feature blogs:

A Dose of Optimism

A Portion of Humanity

Global Invisible Disease

Living Through Crisis

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A Note On Sickle Cell: What Helped me Help Myself — A dose of optimism

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I used to live my life reactionary to what people thought of my medical condition. I was used to it, so I disengaged early, I wanted to be a normal kid. I did grow curious, some part of me grew to seriously ask myself questions — wanting to understand if what people thought of me through the lens of my condition was the me I actually am — the look of like I’m suddenly part of a lower subset of human; the look of as if I live like a man on death row; the look of a decrepit helpless man. This is the look I find in their eyes.

All those looks were not controlled by me, it would have some very negative effects this fuelled me wanting to find the truth so I did my first ever “Google’s”. My first mistake, (never try find true documentation with the highest google answer). This would play on my mind for a while till I took a real look at what the findings were, I didn’t just search up on Wikipedia or the NHS website I would start to read medical journals and see how it is defined. My findings concluded, its not a death sentence.

(Even further I have come up with hypothesis on how to treat it; that is for another blog. )

How I saw myself looking after my body was different. I didn’t automatically start treating it like a temple. What I knew though is with strong bones, a strong body and cardio vascular system your quality of life will have levelled & or better than the next guy because sickle cell puts you in the position to have to live to a higher standard of nutrition as a basic prerequisite.

With all the people I have seen with the condition (numbering in the hundreds) those with less complaints eat a balanced diet go to the gym to move weights and don’t make reckless decisions, those with the best life have THE BEST LIFESTYLE. I want to stress it does not absolve crisis, it helps the pain tolerance to be higher because the body is generally in better shape and used to the stresses of those physical activities. So the friends that look ‘perfectly healthy’ will participate in sports activities and or socially drink and don’t “look like” they have sickle cell till they tell you look after themselves to a very high standard. Everyone though is healthy till they are not.

This means being an active participant in your health. I listen to my body and assess the situation, when I do that I have better control of my days. I’m not saying there aren’t days I can be gripped by pain, not at all. I know what’s best for me and what’s not so good for me when it comes to activity.

I feel great daily if I look after my body daily. This is something all of my brothers and sisters to know, I’m not the biggest guy but I started with the smallest weights and the shortest session but slowly year after year I gained more inner strength to compose myself and try out for my university Gymnastics team. Being very honest it was the best decision I made as an adult. Making sure within myself that this is my own body I own it, my identity is what I make of it, Sickle Cell is not me it exists while I’m alive but it will not condemn me to a life of fear and destitution.

If this makes sense pass it on, just like the death sentence disease idea that was probably passed on hand this piece of information over too, instead of looking at friends and family with desperate despair maybe this dose of optimism will do you all some good.

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Thank You For Reading… Please read my Other Feature blogs:

Living Through Crisis

A Portion of Humanity

Global Invisible Disease

Addict Stigma // Opioid Crisis

And visit Sickle Cell Companion  for all my other literature on Sickle Cell

A Note On – My Journey to an Anti Erasure World

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I have been working tirelessly to establish a great reading list and recommendations for all the people I’m around who want to learn and are willing to learn.

With help from Ayo Ojo @theldnhauttie Iolo Edwards karen hunter Greg Carr I have established a reading list well enough for the people who have the will the want and the enthusiasm to learn about history without erasure.


For me it all started with buying history and archive books/lectures thinking I would learn good history by well meaning people.
Long story short the event that happened was history would erase the blackness within it. This sent me on a pursuit to learn more and put that in my work leading me to believe I was the first of many, well was I wrong.

Erasure has been a long standing tradition in the west, Ayo and I Discovered that there are many books and lectures out there by writers with more years and experience than us.

Phenomenally written in a language made for us to understand. Putting Karen and Greg in my crosshairs, these professors have an amazing show on YouTube made to fill the soul and educate the minds of us all and I dedicate time to reading them.

A mind that is out to learn what they can about fashion and history Ally we exchanged reading list of books to read so I could find better fulfilling my purpose within the fashion sphere. A strong ally in Iolo made for me to gain a photographically perspective of history.

In that comes this reading list. Specially built to be read by anyone, quite literally they all are in a language made to read regardless of level and full of information that can help anyone build the visual historical and contextual timeline of black influence in fashion.

There are many more books but these are the ones I offer to you all as a starting point on your journey as they were for me.

P.S. Anti Erasure is not a singular journey, many people out there are doing the work, seek them out; learn from them; grow with them; better the world

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A Diary of Silver linings: why I’m a creator you follow

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Last year I wrote a book, not many people know I have a book, but I told myself henceforth I will share it so whoever needs it can see it. I have a growing voice in fashion and much of my writing is not fashion related, obscure to me but that’s the world I live in and how my life is.

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Here’s my first book, I want to say, this book is unlike any of my other works, born of pain an anguish of a failed system I hope to change. Nothing to do with fashion and more to do with real life. I wrote this book before all of the troubles of last year and how there’s a silver lining to everything. Once you see it, seize it capture it and Burst it Open so the light it brings shines on everyone in your space. That’s what this book is about

Last year my people were dying on the streets, there were so many points where I saw the pain and suffering reflected in the people in the work I produced. I decided not to share my work because my words in the moment meant more than the words I had written, even though it was months apart.

There were times when I was asked in the moment to make fashion videos, I had created a show that was unlike any before it and meant so much to the community who were exposed to it. My spirit really said I should not do no productions because people in the streets, me being in the streets was more important than fashion.

I am not for your consumption

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There were moments that were necessary for others to escape that I could provide but it wasn’t in me to help people escape, I needed to live in the moment as a human just like everyone else and that needed to be respected because there were voices that I needed to listen to and I needed others to hear.

In America from Kobe and Pop Smoke, to Ahmaud Arbery, to the Lekki tollgate massacre 2020 did not let up I made the decision to live in it. Covid made sure we stewed in it, how could a man like me, raised by the people create an escape. I didn’t see it, if it was my job to do that I’m sorry.

My business took a hit because of and now I’m here again asking for peace, patience and guidance to work up again in the eyes of the people from this site and those that follow me.

My existence is not for your consumption, my work is. We are tied, but I was tired. I’m due to show up and show everyone again, why I am a creator you follow

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The Fickle Fantasy of the Avant- Whore

Identity is a real intriguing thing. We date based around it whether its religion and race or gender. But theres this one part of identity i find almost riveting in a certain way but also repugnant in others. That would be the Dating because you wear a certain type of clothes. Akin to dating people for listening to a certain type of music.

Beauty of Artisanal Wear

This is how riveting this is there are people who find a clothing brand and relate to the person who makes the clothes so much; feel the person is telling their story (much like a musician) and wear that persons clothes for the rest of their lives, better still they will only wear this person. I can only imagine what that is like, to want to wear someones designs for the rest of their lives. To feel what this person who has made these clothes have felt, when you touch the clothes you see where they’re coming from, when you wear them you walk in their shoes almost, or the shoes of the person they’re inventing is projecting; possibly kind of euphoric.

Bastardisation of Fashion Houses

The repugnancy of it all is deep and complicated and very precise. Let me explain. In the era I grew up in theres a thing going on, I don’t know whether this has always happened though, there are men, them and women out here who went through phases of dress from department store, school clothes, etc, landing themselves at the discovery of european fashion designers one way or the other and determined this was the upper echelon of dress.

I myself went through phases where i didn’t want to dress like everyone else but wasn’t trying to impress with a name but with my style, wearing particular items together in a way that made me feel good, unique, stylish.

I don’t feel the same energy, what I sense is the discovery of a cult following that has been going on for a few decades now and believing this is the greatest thing a friendship group doesn’t know about, this concerns, Margiela, CDG, Ann D, CCP and the favourite few names of this class. This discovery has led to many new ways of being, the rabid variety, who will bite your head off for not knowing who the designer they worship is, or worse still look down on you for not knowing who their cult leader is, which is the more sheepish part of the personality. They feel it is any different from people who lord Chanel, Gucci, or Louis Vuitton. Where its just the same thing with little known designers from that era.

The Facetious Fashion Industry

I found it terrifying hilarious that there are young guys out there that went through a “phase” of wearing “hyped” clothes as they would put it, – didn’t grow out of it – and ended up pushing the mentality of ‘I have this I am better than you’ on European and Japanese etc. high-priced clothes

I will like to say high fashion is not equal to European made clothes

nor is high fashion a high priced item.

as these “luxury”/Heritage houses have taught us, they have devolved luxury to what the name will bring you socially, which is status and approval from those who approve of your status through your clothes. That their clothes aren’t synonymous with well travelled and artisanally made wears and licenses.

This mindset though has travelled to the mind of the youth who know nothing about well made history of the house. But equate name and brand to the clothes and luxury to the price tag.

All together has made for a diluted system of people who believe hard work in marketing means your clothing brand can be successful and automatically luxury with whose body you’re able to get it on.

The Fictitious Fickle Fantasy of Youth

The Era of clout and trolls has given rise to what I like to call the Avant-Whore a person who uses the same issue with Hype beasts and adds it to the Anti-fashion or more artisanal houses. But has more sensibilities and possibly more knowledge, like a true fashion elitist would.

I have seen Men go from streetwear, a very calm genre of wears on its own, to saying they outgrow it and deciding now it must be only wear [insert off the beat and path designer] clothes. Perfectly fine on its own but the projection of the insecurity comes in when they feel their friends need to be what they’re on, vying for more validity. Or thinking their friends in the click are less acquainted with what “real fashion” is do to their styling or buying choices.

My further analysis, because these people have the power of elitist who also wear the same clothes , the cult followers who buy and trade, and the true fans who will support the designer(s)in question no matter what. This person will decide based on their new attire that they will only date people who dress as they are, as if it were some status symbol or new level of elitism the acquired.

all due to the fact they’re near – people who love it, for their personal desires, or people write on it – they feel an allure of to talk and act mightier than thou. More Accepted than anyone else, more in the know than anyone else.

Enough to project it onto a partner that fashion is their life and if someone else they’re talking to isn’t deep in fashion as well then theres nothing to talk about.

I find it concerning that this thought process even exists, and just thought provoking that there are young people that think like this. I even know there are older people who think this way enough to give fearless kids to take it a step further and project this mindset onto the people outside fashion because those are the people who have less knowledge of fashion than they do.

All in its disconcerting people roam the world thinking this way, as a writing topic and someone who has deeply studied Behavioural psychology and Sociology its a riveting subject to talk about, but as someone who is in fashion and has a high level of fashion knowledge and can’t be effected by these people, I wonder how it is effecting the people who don’t have a good defence on it and are made to feel this way by the shoal of fashion.

Whatever Moves Your Dial

Damilare. Not Your Typical

If you want to donate to help out this growing platform all patronage is welcome https://www.paypal.me/DYusuff

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Click here for my Essays 

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Spring Of The Rookie

Sickle Cell Companion